Hi all and welcome,
So I’ve been wanting to do some writing for so long now, but couldn’t quite figure out exactly what I wanted to write about. I also need an outlet to just speak freely. So what better to start writing about than my own life, and my daily thoughts and struggles? I am currently 32 years old, have an amazing boyfriend who has five amazing children that we have every other weekend. My life with them and the struggles we face will be mostly what I write about. I figure maybe one day someone will read this and relate or be able to learn from mistakes I make. I’m no pro at navigating this life of mine, so do not take anything I say to heart or think that how my life goes is how it is supposed to be. So my first blog is going to be about how we met and the circumstances surrounding it.
So it all started about 14 months ago when my boyfriend and I met. I used to work for a flooring store, and he was one of the contractors that came in and bought from us and did some work for us. I was in a relationship at the time, and he was married. I know sounds bad, but really give me a minute and you will understand. In May of 2018 his wife took their kids, took all their money, left all the bills unpaid and on the verge of everything being shut off while he was at work one day and tried to move herself and their kids to Montana. Meanwhile I was in a very unhappy and estranged relationship. We did not have sex anymore, he was not affectionate towards me anymore, he was always mad at me, while all I did was work and take care of his two toddler girls while he worked like 15-18 hours a day. I had had enough and cried to him about it, yet nothing changed. At that point I was DONE!
On June 22, 2018 my work participated in a golf tournament for the chamber of commerce. I had to go, but didn’t want to golf, so they had asked our resident contractor to play while I was just the team cheerleader. There was alcohol offered at every hole, in between holes, and not to mention we had brought our own too since it was so hot and we all wanted to have a blast. We all wanted to cheer him up since his wife did what she did, and I needed to cheer myself up as well as block out all the crap I was dealing with personally. (Okay so for anonymity purposes I will call him Jay.) So with the alcohol flowing and home lives being disastrous to say the least, we flirted all day long. I had always thought he was super handsome and sexy since the first time I saw him. He has this rugged, rough sex appeal. I could write about how sexy he is all day, but I would never truly be able to do him justice. Okay so back to the golf tournament. So we flirted all day, nothing happened, but then after everyone left he walked me to my car and kissed me. It shocked me, and sent this electric feeling through my entire body, I had never been kissed like that before in my whole life. It was like that kiss set my whole world on fire, and I was alive again, like I could breathe for the first time.
After that day, We texted and flirted, meanwhile I was trying to end things with my current boyfriend. Jay and I would hang out after I got off work, and we got to know each other and became best friends. We would hang out on his back porch and drink beers and BBQ and listen to music and talk about everything. Eventually I got things all sorted out with my ex and things were officially all done and separated. Which freed myself and Alex to be together for real and openly. We never had a day where it was like ,”do you want to be my girlfriend,” So we use the date of the golf tournament as our anniversary.
So that is how we met and got together, there has been so much between then and now, I cannot wait to write it all down and maybe one day someone will get some help from reading all of it.
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